COMMUNICATE:

CLEARLY, COMPASSIONATELY + EFFECTIVELY

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My Approach

Conflict is an incredible revealer of our patterns, limitations, and sometimes, our wounds. Most people yearn for better connection and fulfillment in their relationships - wanting good outcomes for all involved - yet they get in their own way, by letting reactivity and triggers dominate, and falling into unconscious competitive dynamics.

From my training as both a mediator and a lawyer working in conflict resolution and my experience as a facilitator, coach and teacher, I can help you to: 

  • Clarify your feelings, needs and requests, so you can express yourself more precisely, cleaned up from blame and impatient demands.
  • Listen with greater depth so that your partners feel heard and respected.
  • Refine your non-verbal communication and energetic state of being, so that your gestures and bids feel more coherent and trustable.
  • Transform your understanding of the conflict and perception of your role in the situation, which opens up new ways to move past stuckness and convert the tension into creative solutions.
  • Become more adept in facilitating future conflicts with more ease and skill.
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​I help people cultivate the skills and capacities to handle conflict and disputes creatively and effectively.

I coach people one on one, teach classes through learning platforms and catered for organizations’ needs, and record conversations through podcasts to spread inspiration, tips and practices with a wider audience.

 

I published my first book Compassionate Conversations: How to Speak and Listen from the Heart in 2020 with Shambhala Publications, co-authored with Diane Musho Hamilton and Gabriel Wilson. We blend some of the best thinking and practices from conflict resolution, adult developmental psychology, Zen meditation and Integral theory to help readers create more inclusive, truthful and heart-felt conversations around our most provocative differences - including race, gender, politics, religion, sexuality and so forth. Find out more here.

Before I took my act solo, I researched peacebuilding, mediation and gender-sensitive security approaches within the United Nations system and supported policy development in partnership with various international non-governmental organizations and universities. I worked as a researcher, consultant and advisor for organizations, companies, non-profits. I received my Masters of Science in Negotiation and Conflict Resolution from Columbia University in 2016, and later worked there as a Teaching Associate, focusing on strategies for systems transformation. I served in the United Nations Department of Peacekeeping (Senior Leadership Appointments Section) and certified as a mediator with the New York Peace Institute.

 

 

 

PRAISE

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Jose Pascal da Rocha (Ukraine/US)

OSCE Dialogue Facilitation Officer,  Mediation Expert, Author, Professor & Consultant
Kim is an avid learner, a passionate and caring human being, centered and grounded in the world, ancient learnings, and future journeys. This amalgam of wisdom, knowledge and compassion gives Kim not only an edge in the field of work she is, but moreover gives her audiences and clients the guidance, serenity and crystal clear insights needed to navigate the deep waters of life. Her work is needed, her advice sought after and her teachings are insightful and enlightening.

 

Dev Tandon

Dev Tandon (US)

Author and Founder of OBO Movement 

In today’s turbulent, post-pandemic world, Kim’s message and vision is more important now than ever. By asking the right questions, she is able to hold multiple perspectives while creating and promoting a safe environment for those with whom she works.

 

Katherine

Katharina (Germany)

Advisor and Leadership Consultant for Peace Building, Social Innovation & Entrepreneurship

Kim has a talent for helping you to find what you were not seeing all along. She has the highest ethical standards. She does not shy away from difficult conversations and can help her clients with a sheer endless repertoire of negotiation techniques for challenging situations at work and in private life. Her sessions feel like coming home.

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