The Neurology of Sameness and Difference – Getting into the deep roots of division with the Association for Conflict Resolution in New York


Neuroscientists are coming to understand far more deeply the functioning of the brain and nervous system and its relationship to conflict. This understanding has tremendous relevance to the work of mediators and conflict resolution professionals.

  • Appreciation of the commonality of our human experience, and its role in building sustainable peace. 
  • Understanding that talking about our differences arouses the nervous system, creating excitement and provoking defensive patterning. 
  • Entrainment of our nervous systems to identify the distinct experiences of sameness and difference.
  • Learning how to change our defensive patterning by breathing, relaxing, and staying open to many perspectives.
  • Fostering constructive dialogue which includes the skillful engagement of difference and excitement, noticing when difference becomes threat and reducing it.

I loved getting to bring my co-authors Diane and Gabriel to a community I used to be closer to on the East Coast of the States. I hope you enjoy listening to it.

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How to Communicate in the Midst of Strong Emotions – Free Online Class June 28, 2022

JUNE 28, 202211:30-1pm HI2:30-4pm PT4:30-6pm MX5:30-7pm ETRecording available for 48 hrs afterwardsRegister here:
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Gratitude meditation

This quote caught my attention lately: Your depression is connected to your insolence and refusal to praiseRumi You ...
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How do we listen when we don’t agree? Interview with Shadi Mogadime from Conversations for World Change

I had a wonderful time being interviewed by Shadi Mogadime, whose fascinating story begins in South Africa, takes her through ...
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